Sunday, October 16, 2011

Your Life is Now

I offer the lyrics of John Mellencamp's song "Your Life is Now" - it makes so much sence for us LBGs (Late Breaking Gays)

See the moon roll across the stars
See the seasons turn like a heart
Your father's days are lost to you
This is your time here to do what you will do

Your life is now your life is now your life is now
In this undiscovered moment
Lift your head up above the crowd
We could shake this world
If you would only show us how
Your life is now

Would you teach your children to tell the truth
Would you take the high road if you could choose
Do you believe you're a victim of a great compromise
'Cause I believe you could change your mind and change our lives

Would you teach your children to tell the truth
This is your time here to do what you will

Oh yea!!!!

Saturday, October 15, 2011


When I first came out, as a LBG "Late Breaking Gay" I was scared. I had only the most negative sense of what it meant to be gay. But as I "mature" in my gayness I discover that there is a wonderful community and even a rich history.

Last night I tapped into that history and community. Our church, the Cathedral of Hope, sponsored a fundraiser at a local production of "The Temperamentals". I loved it!

I am amazed by the bravery of the men that were depicted by this wonderful and funny play. It is set in the 1950's when America was hunting down communists and gays. In that day “temperamental” was code for “homosexual”, part of a created language of secret words that gay men used to communicate. The play tells the story of two men – the communist Harry Hay and the Viennese refugee and designer Rudi Gernreich – as they fall in love while building the first gay rights organization in the pre-Stonewall United States.

The play helped me find part of the history of the new life that I have adopted. Being gay isn't just my experience it is the lives and struggles of generations of gays before me. I am the lucky one. I stand on their shoulders and the view is great up here.

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Brother Bullying

With all of the emphasis on bullying that is out there lately I want to share my own story. I was not bullied by random kids at school; I was bullied by my brother. Yep - my loving big brother. I was picked on and physically abused. It has been more than forty years and it still hurts.

Here is the point I want to make – you can be bullied by the people that should be the closest to you. I don’t imagine that many young people will read this so I address those who are “Late Breaking Gays”.

Fellow LBGs – you may have been bullied by your peers when you where young, you may have been bullied by family, it is ok – it wasn’t about you – it was about them. You don’t have to forgive as much as you need to let go of the pain. It does get better – oh yes – so much better.

So basicly: FUCK EM!

Welcome to life out of the closet.

Ain’t it great?

Sunday, October 9, 2011


Don't Ask Don't tell is history. What I am so fasinated by is the number of men and women in the military that are coming out. This is amazing! What it tells me is that 1) there are many many more that haven't come out 2) there have been thousands over the years that haven't come out.

I am pleased! But what has this done to those thousands over the years who have bravely served our country but have been forced into the closet and have had to stay there? I hope that the repeal of DODT gives them one more reason to come out.