When I was in the closet I was by most counts a pretty conservative guy. Married to a good woman, two children, house in the suburbs, a dog and two cars in the garage. I went to church, I didn't drink, smoke or use drugs. I was miserable!
What changed? I acknowledged that I was gay!
By all standard societal measures my life wasn't pretty good.
As a LBG(Late Breaking Gay) I am glad I figured out life before I was too old to enjoy it.